Vulnerable

Isn’t it amazing how a person who once was a stranger, suddenly meant the world to you? but what if, just what if, you felt that he’s not the one you deserve and that you deserve better?

You know at this age, the worst thing we can do to ourselves is to fall for someone harder than they fall for us. And if you’d ask me if I’m the one falling harder? the answer is yes. I’m always the one who loves more. I guess, that’s my thing.

Do you guys believe that communication is the key to a lasting relationship? For me, communication is as important as trust. But what would you do if your partner isn’t communicating? I’m in a relationship with this guy and I feel that I always frustrate him whenever I open up about how I feel. I want to be honest and I just want to tell him everything that’s going on in my mind because I believe that he’s the one I’m supposed to be telling everything. I’m not the typical girl who would open up to her friends about her relationship problems. So whenever I feel we have a problem, I would always talk to him because I’m under the impression that people in a relationship are supposed to solve problems by discussing them.

But somehow, our discussions would usually turn into arguments. And it would come to a point where both of us would have no idea what the initial discussion was about. The conversation would have turned so many corners that we’d need a map to get out. And the argument would usually end not understanding each others feelings. I realized that I have to stay away from having any discussion about anything that would upset him or me. I agree with almost everything he wants until now that I realized, I’m living his life not mine.

I’m now afraid.. afraid to communicate, to show my vulnerability and believe me, its a lonely place to be. But my love is stronger than my loneliness. A relationship isn’t about leaving when something goes wrong. It’s about being there for the good and the bad. I believe that we’ll just have to work through this. I hope I’m not wrong that love is strong, love is kind, and love sticks around.

Choose the man who…

1. Isn’t afraid to say I love you.

      Fact: All girls want a guy who says I love you every night and proves it everyday.

2. Loves and respects you as much as he loves and respects his mother.

       Fact: How a guy handles his lady is a reflection of the type of bond he has with his mother.

3. Isn’t too proud to admit he doesn’t want to lose you.

        Fact: The sad reality is that there are guys who are just afraid to tell you that you are not the one he has envisioned for his future, He just doesn’t want to lose your company or the comfort of having someone he likes to go out with. You are just easy and “good enough” to fill the time until that special woman comes along. 

4. Listens even when you think he isn’t.

         Fact: A woman is already in love with any man who listens to her.

5. Watches you sleep.

          Fact: When a woman feels safe enough to fall asleep with a guy means that the woman trusts them enough not to hurt them.

6. Kisses you on the forehead.

           Fact: One kiss on the forehead is sweeter than a thousand kiss on the lips. No lust but full of love and respect.

7. Would rather cut off his hands than put them on you.

           Fact: If you don’t want to, you don’t have to. Always earn the respect you deserve.

8. Who isn’t too ashamed to keep calling you when you won’t take his calls.

           Fact: You want that. Aren’t you?

9. Can never refer to you as “the one who got away” because he always knew he couldn’t live without you.

            Fact: A real man never stops showing a girl how much she means to him even after he’s got her.

10. Will stand up for you no matter what.

            Fact: A man has two options in a relationship:

                       a.) Stand Up and be the man she needs or

                        b.) Sit Down so she can see the man behind him.

11. Will learn something new for you.

             Fact: A man who learns everyday would definitely teach his woman new lessons in life.

12. Brings out the best in you.

              Fact: We all want to be with someone who brings out the best in us and not the stress in us.

13. Respects your family and friends as much as he respects you.

Fact: He must love or at least respect the people you love.

14. Doesn’t just text you, but rather, will pick up the phone and call you because he needs to hear your voice.

                 Fact: He’s really into you.

15. Who shows you his softer side, and admits the things he’s most afraid of.

                 Fact: The man trust you enough to admit that he’s also afraid of some things. And he’s already giving you a part of him that you could possibly break; his heart.

16. Thinks you’re pretty without makeup.

                Fact: He loves you just the way you are.

17. Is patient with you.

                Fact: Love is patient.

18. Wants to show you off to the world whether you’re in sweats or an evening gown.

Fact: When a guy wants to show you off to the world when you think you are at your worst, he sees you differently.

19. Who speaks with love and not anger.

                Fact: Nobody wants a person who makes his mouth work faster than his brain, right?

20. Who doesn’t need to be told you need him, he can just tell.

                Fact: A real woman can do it all by herself BUT a real man won’t let her.

This post doesn’t want girls to think twice about their guy. Most guys aren’t showy so give him time or try to read between the lines. I also understand that girls have their “dream” guys. But I would rather pick the right guy rather than my dream guy. Girls, always remember that a real man knows what we need so stop focusing on what you “want”. If you focus too much on what you “wanted”, you can become blind to truly see him when he finally arrives.

And to all the boys out there, MAN UP! and love her UNCONDITIONALLY.

Thanks for reading! 😉