How do we know if we deserve someone better?
Honestly, I don’t really know the answer. One of the mistakes I keep doing in my life is settling for less. I always settle for something less especially when it comes to relationships. I would always make excuses to why I don’t deserve the best where in fact, we all deserve nothing but only the best, right?
Have you ever heard of the lines:
“It’s not you, it’s me.”
“You don’t deserve someone like me.”
“The timing is wrong. Maybe someday.”
Thank God I haven’t heard any of those and hopefully not because if I do I’m gonna slap that person in the face and dump him right away and tell him that it’s BS because he just got those lines on romantic flicks which is undeniably and totally gay. And I think “You deserve better” line is synonymous to “I don’t want to hurt you, I want you to be happy but I don’t love you anymore”.
Recently, I realized that I have always been on the wrong end of unequal relationships and believe me, it feels terrible. I know that feelings of worthlessness, neediness and confusion suck. However, life has still it’s own way of making things funny. We may experience a lot of situations, heartaches and nonsense attachments but one thing is for sure, not all relationship ends in the same painful fashion.
Yes my dear, there are lots of happy and healthy relationships out there so believe that you deserve one. 🙂 Love is not something we have to rush. Rush relationships are usually hit by accidents and just end. Make sense?
Last night, a friend of mine asked me how do I have the guts to just shut people out of my life, let people leave if they want to or just move on after a breakup. Well here’s my answer, whenever people leave, I would always think that they’re actually doing me a huge favor. There’s this quote that says, “Never chase love, affection, or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having”.
I hate hearing girls say that “I love him and the way he makes me feel.” whenever they’re asked why do they want their guy back. He’s your boyfriend and how do boyfriends generally try to make their girls feel? Don’t you think you deserve someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated? 🙂 Don’t you realize that the person you haven’t met and would want to spend the rest of their life with you will do anything and his best to take your pain away instead of making it worse?
I bet you never thought of it that way because you are too busy going gaga about him. And when we’re crazy about someone, we usually tend to be blind. When I ended my relationship two months ago with the guy who keeps on saying he loves me but doesn’t do anything to prove it to me, I asked myself and maybe you should ask yourself too: Why go the rest of your life getting less than you give? When you do not get what you give then it’s time to give that relationship a cold, hard evaluation. This doesn’t apply on romantic relationships only okay?
This is why I said people are doing me a huge favor whenever they leave me. Because they may be closing their doors but they are also opening another for me. An open door where the right people are and the people I truly deserve, someone better.