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Someone better.

Published 08/24/2014 by Neds Rocillo

How do we know if we deserve someone better?

Honestly, I don’t really know the answer. One of the mistakes I keep doing in my life is settling for less. I always settle for something less especially when it comes to relationships. I would always make excuses to why I don’t deserve the best where in fact, we all deserve nothing but only the best, right?

Have you ever heard of the lines:

“It’s not you, it’s me.”

“You don’t deserve someone like me.”

“The timing is wrong. Maybe someday.”

Thank God I haven’t heard any of those and hopefully not because if I do I’m gonna slap that person in the face and dump him right away and tell him that it’s BS because he just got those lines on romantic flicks which is undeniably and totally gay. And I think “You deserve better” line is synonymous to “I don’t want to hurt you, I want you to be happy but I don’t love you anymore”.

Recently, I realized that I have always been on the wrong end of unequal relationships and believe me, it feels terrible. I know that feelings of worthlessness, neediness and confusion suck. However, life has still it’s own way of making things funny. We may experience a lot of situations, heartaches and nonsense attachments but one thing is for sure, not all relationship ends in the same painful fashion. 

Yes my dear, there are lots of happy and healthy relationships out there so believe that you deserve one. 🙂 Love is not something we have to rush. Rush relationships are usually hit by accidents and just end. Make sense? 

Last night, a friend of mine asked me how do I have the guts to just shut people out of my life, let people leave if they want to or just move on after a breakup. Well here’s my answer, whenever people leave, I would always think that they’re actually doing me a huge favor. There’s this quote that says, “Never chase love, affection, or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having”.

I hate hearing girls say that “I love him and the way he makes me feel.”  whenever they’re asked why do they want their guy back. He’s your boyfriend and how do boyfriends generally try to make their girls feel? Don’t you think you deserve someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated? 🙂 Don’t you realize that the person you haven’t met and would want to spend the rest of their life with you will do anything and his best to take your pain away instead of making it worse?

I bet you never thought of it that way because you are too busy going gaga about him. And when we’re crazy about someone, we usually tend to be blind. When I ended my relationship two months ago with the guy who keeps on saying he loves me but doesn’t do anything to prove it to me, I asked myself and maybe you should ask yourself too: Why go the rest of your life getting less than you give? When you do not get what you give then it’s time to give that relationship a cold, hard evaluation. This doesn’t apply on romantic relationships only okay?

This is why I said people are doing me a huge favor whenever they leave me. Because they may be closing their doors but they are also opening another for me. An open door where the right people are and the people I truly deserve, someone better.

<3,

Neds

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1-50 Love Advice

Published 06/26/2014 by Neds Rocillo

FIRST STEP: Choose a number from 1-50

SECOND STEP: Scroll down and look for your chosen number below

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1. There are a lot of fish in the sea.

2. You will find the perfect person who loves you as much as you love him/her.

3. He loves you so much!

4. Treat yourself like a prize.

5. Don’t let others influence your decision.

6. Stop seeking for love.

7. Stop kissing a lot of frogs to find your Prince.

8. He’s the one!

9. You control your ultimate happiness! not him nor her.

10. You have to learn to see an imperfect person perfectly.

11. Know that love is worth it.

12. Remember the little things.

13. It’s worth fighting for!

14. Be a good listener.

15. Don’t be afraid to tell him what you feel.

16. Love yourself.

17. Know your worth.

18. Dare to reveal yourself fully.

19. Make your partner feel that you are understanding.

20. Never stop falling in love with the same person who’s in your mind and heart right now.

21. Don’t judge the person you love.

22. Forgive and move on.

23. Get on with loving and living. You don’t have forever.

24. Don’t give up.

25. Embrace change.

26. Tell him/her you love him/her!

27. Don’t cheat!

28. Stop nagging!

29. Let him/her do his own thing.

30. Compromise once in a while.

31. Think about your words first.

32. Don’t be scared to apologize.

33. Let him know how it feels to be let down.

34. Make sure you practice what you preach.

35. Be with someone who brings out the best in you.

36. Stop being an overly jealous partner! Trust is the key!

37. Never force yourself to have a space in anyone’s life.

38. Stop begging for love.

39. Be a woman a man needs.

40. Life is full of second chances.

41. You’ve got to do what’s right for you.

42. Fight for him not with him.

43. Don’t play hard to get! You might miss something.

44. Never touch a life – if you mean to break a heart.

45. You are so lucky to have him.

46. You’re way too young to be so bitter.

47. You may be right for each other, but that doesn’t mean you’re right for each other right now.

48. You gotta be fair to your partner.

49. You already have one asshole. You don’t need another.

50. If he doesn’t care, you might be missing out on someone who does.

 

 

 

P.S. This is my version of Marcelo Santos 25 typical love advice.

Love,

Neds

Vulnerable

Published 06/23/2014 by Neds Rocillo

Isn’t it amazing how a person who once was a stranger, suddenly meant the world to you? but what if, just what if, you felt that he’s not the one you deserve and that you deserve better?

You know at this age, the worst thing we can do to ourselves is to fall for someone harder than they fall for us. And if you’d ask me if I’m the one falling harder? the answer is yes. I’m always the one who loves more. I guess, that’s my thing.

Do you guys believe that communication is the key to a lasting relationship? For me, communication is as important as trust. But what would you do if your partner isn’t communicating? I’m in a relationship with this guy and I feel that I always frustrate him whenever I open up about how I feel. I want to be honest and I just want to tell him everything that’s going on in my mind because I believe that he’s the one I’m supposed to be telling everything. I’m not the typical girl who would open up to her friends about her relationship problems. So whenever I feel we have a problem, I would always talk to him because I’m under the impression that people in a relationship are supposed to solve problems by discussing them.

But somehow, our discussions would usually turn into arguments. And it would come to a point where both of us would have no idea what the initial discussion was about. The conversation would have turned so many corners that we’d need a map to get out. And the argument would usually end not understanding each others feelings. I realized that I have to stay away from having any discussion about anything that would upset him or me. I agree with almost everything he wants until now that I realized, I’m living his life not mine.

I’m now afraid.. afraid to communicate, to show my vulnerability and believe me, its a lonely place to be. But my love is stronger than my loneliness. A relationship isn’t about leaving when something goes wrong. It’s about being there for the good and the bad. I believe that we’ll just have to work through this. I hope I’m not wrong that love is strong, love is kind, and love sticks around.

Q & A 2014

Published 06/03/2014 by Neds Rocillo

I also answered the same questions last December 2013. And I’m answering it again. I’m not deleting my 2013 answers. hihi 🙂

1. Think of the last person who said I love you, do you think they meant it? Yes 🙂

2. Would you date an 18-year-old at the age you are now? No BUT I’m dating a 19-year-old HAHA

3. When’s the last time you were aggravated and happy at the same time? today. 

4. Would you ever smile at a stranger? Yes 🙂

5. Is there someone mad because you’re dating/talking to the person you are? none I think. 🙂

6. Have you heard a song that reminds you of someone today? Yes Amber Pacific’s Forever reminds me of Hiro and Lek. 

7. What exactly are you wearing right now? Tank top and shorts.

8. How often do you listen to music? Everyday!

9. Do you wear jeans or sweats more? jeans 🙂

10. Do you think your life will change dramatically before 2015? I think so. 😐 

11. Are you a social or an antisocial person? Both? Introvert problems, eh? 🙂

12. Have you ever kissed someone whose name begins with the letter ‘A’? Nope. 🙂

13. What about ‘R’? He’s nickname starts with R so I guess my answer is Yes. :)) 

14. Can you drive a stick shift? no.

15. Do you care if people talk badly about you?  no. it’s none of my business. 🙂

16. Are you going out of town soon? I think so! 

17. When was the last time you cried? last Sunday, I was really worried of getting a job. 

18. Have you ever told someone you loved them? yes 

19. If you could change your eye color, would you? from black to brown 

20. Is there a boy who you would do absolutely everything for? yes 

21. Name something you dislike about the day you’re having. I miss my boyfriend it hurts. haha

22. Is it cute when guys kiss you on your forehead? yes 

23. Are you dating the last person you talked to? yes

24. What are you sitting on right now? Bean Bag.

25. Does anyone regularly (other than family) tell you they love you? yes

26. Have you ever wanted someone you couldn’t have? yes

27. Who was the last person you talked to before you went to bed last night? Homer. 

28. Do you get a lot of colds? no 

29. Does anyone hate you? yes

30. Do you have any empty alcohol bottles hidden somewhere in your room? none.

31. Do you like watching scary movies? yes 

32. Do you want your tongue pierced? no 

33. If you had to delete one year of your life completely, which would it be? 2012 

34. Did you have a dream last night? nope.

35. When was the last time you told someone you loved them?last night 🙂

36. Do you think you’ll be married in 5 years? no 

37. Do you think someone has feelings for you? yes. my boyfriend loves me. haha

38. Do you think someone is thinking about you right now? I don’t think so.

39. Did you have a good day yesterday? yes, I was able to attend an interview, movie with Homer, and bond with my bffs.

40. Think back 2 months ago; were you in a relationship? yes, in a relationship with Homer. haha

41. In the next 48 hours, will you hang out with a girl? I don’t think so.

42. Has anyone told you they don’t want to ever lose you? yes, Homer just said that last night. hahaha #clingy

43. What’s the best part about school? getting money from le parents and spending it not on books but on food. HAHA

44. Do you have any pictures on your Facebook? yes. 

45. Do you ever pass notes to your friends in school? yes  

46. Do you replay things that have happened in your head? yes. 

47. Were you single over the last summer? no.

48. Is your life anything like it was two years ago? no. 

49. What are you supposed to be doing right now? burning fats. haha

50. Do you hate the last guy you had a conversation with? no

51. Are you nice to everyone? yes. 

52. Have you ever liked someone you didn’t expect to?  yes and worst, I fell in love with him. :))

53. Do you think you can last in a relationship for 6 months and not cheat? yes

54. Are you good at hiding your feelings? before, no. but I’ve learned how to hide it now. 

55. Do you think you like someone? No. I love him instead. 😉 #cheeseballs

56. Have you kissed someone whose name starts with a ‘J’? Yes.

57. Do you prefer to be friends with girls or boys? both. but if I have to choose, I would choose boys. Less drama. 

58. Has anyone of your friends ever seen you cry? yes 

59. Do you hate anyone? yes 

60. How’s your heart? frustrated and happy at the same time.. 🙂  

61. Is there something that happened in your past that you hate talking about? yes 

62. Have you ever cried over a guy? yes 

63. Who is probably talking a load of crap about you right now? I don’t know and I don’t care 🙂 

64. Are your toenails painted pink? no, red.

65. Will your next kiss be a mistake? i don’t think so. 🙂 

66. Girls love it when boyfriends cry; correct? no, not me.  

67. Have your pants ever fallen down in public? no

68. Who was the last person you were on the phone with? Louis 🙂

69. How do you look right now? Stressed and sleepy. 

70. Do you have someone you can be your complete self around? Yes 

71. Can you commit to one person? yes.  

72. Do you have someone of the opposite sex you can tell everything to? yes.

73. Have you ever felt replaced? yes 

74. Did you wake up cranky? yes! :))

75. Are you a jealous person? yes! 

76. Are relationships ever worth it? yes. no regrets just love. 🙂

77. Anyone you’re giving up on? yes.

78. Currently wanting to see anyone? yes 

79. Name something you have to do tomorrow? study what the job i’m applying for is about.

80. Last person you cried in front of? My parents.

81. Is there someone you will never forget? yes 

82. Do you think the person you have feelings for is protective of you? no.

83. If the person you wish to be with were with you, what would you be doing right now?talking and kissing and cuddling. hahaha

84. Are you over your past? yes 

85. Have you ever liked one of your best friends of the opposite sex? yes 

86. Is there anyone you can tell EVERYTHING to? yes 

87. If your first true love knocked on your door with apology and presents,would you accept?Yes I’ve moved on & ready to forgive

88. So, the last person you kissed just happens to arrive at your door at 3AM; do you let them in? yes 

89. Have you ever liked someone who your friends hated? yes 

90. Will you be in a relationship in 2 months? hopefully, we’re still together by that time 🙂 I don’t wanna let go of this guy

91. Is there anyone you know with the name Michael? yes 

92. Have you ever kissed a Matthew? no 

93. Were you in a relationship in January? How was it going? no 

94. Were you happy with the person you liked in March? yes.

95. Don’t tell me lies, is the last person you texted attractive? yes. I’m attracted to my boyfriend.

96. Who do you have texts from? Homer.

97. If the person you like says they like someone else, what would you say? I don’t think I’ll be able to say anything.

98. Have you ever kissed someone older than you? yes 

99. Who’s in your profile picture with you? My supposed-to-be-twin. lol jk it’s just me with the mirror effect

100. Ever kissed under fireworks? no.

101. Has anybody ever given you butterflies? yes 

 

Choose the man who…

Published 05/28/2014 by Neds Rocillo

1. Isn’t afraid to say I love you.

      Fact: All girls want a guy who says I love you every night and proves it everyday.

2. Loves and respects you as much as he loves and respects his mother.

       Fact: How a guy handles his lady is a reflection of the type of bond he has with his mother.

3. Isn’t too proud to admit he doesn’t want to lose you.

        Fact: The sad reality is that there are guys who are just afraid to tell you that you are not the one he has envisioned for his future, He just doesn’t want to lose your company or the comfort of having someone he likes to go out with. You are just easy and “good enough” to fill the time until that special woman comes along. 

4. Listens even when you think he isn’t.

         Fact: A woman is already in love with any man who listens to her.

5. Watches you sleep.

          Fact: When a woman feels safe enough to fall asleep with a guy means that the woman trusts them enough not to hurt them.

6. Kisses you on the forehead.

           Fact: One kiss on the forehead is sweeter than a thousand kiss on the lips. No lust but full of love and respect.

7. Would rather cut off his hands than put them on you.

           Fact: If you don’t want to, you don’t have to. Always earn the respect you deserve.

8. Who isn’t too ashamed to keep calling you when you won’t take his calls.

           Fact: You want that. Aren’t you?

9. Can never refer to you as “the one who got away” because he always knew he couldn’t live without you.

            Fact: A real man never stops showing a girl how much she means to him even after he’s got her.

10. Will stand up for you no matter what.

            Fact: A man has two options in a relationship:

                       a.) Stand Up and be the man she needs or

                        b.) Sit Down so she can see the man behind him.

11. Will learn something new for you.

             Fact: A man who learns everyday would definitely teach his woman new lessons in life.

12. Brings out the best in you.

              Fact: We all want to be with someone who brings out the best in us and not the stress in us.

13. Respects your family and friends as much as he respects you.

Fact: He must love or at least respect the people you love.

14. Doesn’t just text you, but rather, will pick up the phone and call you because he needs to hear your voice.

                 Fact: He’s really into you.

15. Who shows you his softer side, and admits the things he’s most afraid of.

                 Fact: The man trust you enough to admit that he’s also afraid of some things. And he’s already giving you a part of him that you could possibly break; his heart.

16. Thinks you’re pretty without makeup.

                Fact: He loves you just the way you are.

17. Is patient with you.

                Fact: Love is patient.

18. Wants to show you off to the world whether you’re in sweats or an evening gown.

Fact: When a guy wants to show you off to the world when you think you are at your worst, he sees you differently.

19. Who speaks with love and not anger.

                Fact: Nobody wants a person who makes his mouth work faster than his brain, right?

20. Who doesn’t need to be told you need him, he can just tell.

                Fact: A real woman can do it all by herself BUT a real man won’t let her.

This post doesn’t want girls to think twice about their guy. Most guys aren’t showy so give him time or try to read between the lines. I also understand that girls have their “dream” guys. But I would rather pick the right guy rather than my dream guy. Girls, always remember that a real man knows what we need so stop focusing on what you “want”. If you focus too much on what you “wanted”, you can become blind to truly see him when he finally arrives.

And to all the boys out there, MAN UP! and love her UNCONDITIONALLY.

Thanks for reading! 😉

Funny Life.

Published 04/09/2014 by Neds Rocillo

It’s been a long time, hasn’t it? A lot has happened. I’m sure you know that change is the only constant thing in this world. The change may be good or may be bad eitherway life has still it’s own way of making things funny. Yes life’s funny. Don’t you agree?

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Top: The Little Things Pants: Von Dutch

One thing I’ve learned in the past few months was to see something funny in whatever life throws at us along the way. Whatever it is, just catch it and laugh at it. We should learn to find the funny side in everything. It’s the best technique for instant stress relief and dissolves anxiety and doubt. Try it.